I’d a new spring in my step from the Brazilian encounter. I didn’t know whether I fancied him or wanted to relive some of the raunchiness of the Brazilian club. All in all, it was nice to be wanted. Lois had text me during the day, saying that he missed my perfume. Jeeni Mac, was that boy hot? He was definitely a sensual being and after 36 dates, that is exactly what I needed!! The staff at the D4 Berkeley all commented on my new sparkle. I was ready for anything and I would need to be as I had not just one, not just two but at least over ten dates lined up that night.
I have friends who love speed dating (probably for the cocktails); they can’t get enough of it. Then I have other friends who want nothing to do with it. I’ve been hosting speed dating for years. I’m a big fan. When does one get a chance of chatting up ten different men in one night? It doesn’t happen. I was now in the zone of ‘Bring it On’.
This speed dating night was organized by Mysterydates.ie, which is the no.1 singles events provider in Ireland. If there is a singles event in town, Mysterydates are probably running it. They are ahead of the dating game. The setting was ironically upstairs at Café en Seine. I know what you are thinking? Stay downstairs, there are numerous eligible men with wandering eyes available at Café en Seine. However, I was keen to try out the structured approach, that is speed dating. I’d always hosted speed dating events, it had been a while that I was on the other side.
My dates so far have been averaging about 3-4hrs. In the real world, obviously there are fewer hours to set aside for dating. However, it would be a great profession. Between work, gym, family and friends there just isn’t enough time to do something as time consuming as looking for Mr. Right. I’ll admit it there were a couple of occasions throughout my 40 dates, that within the initial five minutes I’d decided whether or not there was a perhaps second date looming. Sometimes, I would’ve loved to do a runner. Sometimes I just stayed in there hoping my initial impression was wrong or for the ‘care’ factor. Tonight, I didn’t have to care so to speak. It was allowing me to say Next, a lot quicker. Date and go, date and go. Can you really meet the man or women of your dreams after just a few minutes of casual chit-chat? I was willing to see. This limited time constraints also ensured that I couldn’t talk about the 40 dates, as I would never get it all in the 4mins. It was a welcome break and I was hoping that nobody would recognise me.
After a short time mingling at the beginning it was straight down to business. I was allocated a table, a number, a match card and a pen. Hugh, the fabulous owner of Mysterydates introduced the proceedings and before long I was having a date, and then another, and then another. I was on fire. It was like a 40 dates in 1 night escapade. Hahaha.
The best description I’ve got of speed dating is as a cross between a job interview, a blind date and a game of musical chairs. I was always a lover of musical chairs, and for me, speed dating appeals more than the anonymity of internet dating. Unlike internet dating, what you see at a speed dating event is what you get. There is no false advertising such as delusions in the profile picture or lying about one’s age, height or weight allowed. Speed dating allows for that physical attraction that elusive chemistry equation.
I met a wide range of men that night. Actually close to 20. Wohoo. There were two foreigners in the mix, both eager beavers. One civil servant, who loved cooking; an ex guard, a war man from Donegal; an Italian stallion; a zany traveller; an elite basketball player; a stringent actuary; a piercings addict; a soulful IT consultant; an English lad; a Waterford farmer; the whole shebang.
After the interviews of romance, it was time to mark that card. And mark I did. To be honest, maybe I am more personable and needed that extra time, but nobody bowled me over that night. Maybe, I was fully bowled from the night before. I also didn’t stay around at the end, which I’d always recommend to anyone. But, saying that I was interested in seeing a few as friends in the future. So, I played the friends card again and gave a select few a tick in the ‘friend’s only’ box. Speed dating ensures contacts are only passed if there is mutual attraction. I logged into the mysterydates website later on. I got four matches; the farmer, both foreigners, and the piercings guys were all up for friendship also. Because, I didn’t tick the lover box, the website doesn’t allow for anymore information, so I’m not sure if others were attracted to me. Powers of attraction….who knows but it was a lot of fun. I was beginning to lose count at how many dates and how many men I was speaking to on a daily basis both inside and outside the 40 dates.
Onwards to date 38…, which really is 58 now after my 20, dates that night.
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